Phillip Stutts

I’m convinced positive progress is the most important element to life. At the ripe, young age of 40 I committed to changing — everything.

Positive progress. I’m convinced that it is the most important element to life — it brings purpose, passion, mission, outcome-based thinking, and growth. It sustains and allows one to love, be grateful and selfless. Personally, if I’m not positively progressing in my marriage, parenting, business and health, then problems will only fester and I will regress.

This wasn’t always my way of thinking. For years I led a very different life — one of self-absorption, negative thinking and blaming. It led me to a pretty dark place in my personal and professional life. I really hit rock bottom when I started dreading the work in my business, emotionally disconnecting from my wife, and making any excuse to not spend time with my newborn baby.

To the outside world, my family and friends, they might be surprised by this revelation and to them I say, I was a good actor in those days. I’m also incredibly sorry for being a soulless and selfish man, instead of a kind, vulnerable and loving soul. Frankly, I didn’t know why I was this way, it was deep inside of my subconscious — and it needed to be explored and understood.

And at the ripe and young age of 40 I had an epiphany, one of those moments that hits you like a brick — when you say, “no more.” In that moment I committed to changing — everything. To understand, learn and grow.

Three years later, I’ll admit, I’m not perfect but I’ve positively progressed thousands of miles from the man I used to be. My marriage is 100x more loving, happier and fulfilling — never perfect, but positively progressing. My daughter is now the light of my life and our bond has never been stronger. She’s “my girl.” I’m “her boy.” I am committed to having a personal and positive moment with her every day — and we recently took our first Daddy/Daughter trip to Chicago and it was the most fun I’ve had in years. And it’s only going to get better…